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” They’ll hate you if you do, they’ll hate you if you don’t. You might as well do you boo” These were the words that I had to tell myself a few days ago. I have suffered from self-confidence in the past and although I have come a long way, some days I still struggle with it. As a blogger and putting myself all over the internet, I’m always wondering things like ” would people like this? Is this ok to wear? should I look different?”. Sometimes these thoughts can start to consume me…

How It Started…

Ok! the other day, I was scrolling through Instagram and came across this post on the shade room. It was a random post about Rihanna showing respect to the victims of Hurricane Matthew in Haiti. As much as I try to avoid the comments, somehow I always end up reading them anyway. I have come to see a pattern in those comments. There are two kinds of people in the comments. For example, in a case of an event, if a celebrety or anyone stays quiet ( on social media) and not speak of the event, there are those people who drag them; for not speaking up and not using their platform to raise awareness. In the same way, if a celebrity does speak up or come up with a call to action, they still get drag. I’ve seen things like ” you not black enough”, ” you can donate more than $100,000″, ” you can do better than that”. I realized WOW, you truly can’t please everyone. I’m always conscious of what I wear, what I say, how I act in order to please people or make certain people feel comfortable. Suddenly It hit me, truth is I’ll NEVER be able to satisfy everyone, so I might as well dress however the F** I want, and do things because they make me happy not because someone might think ” why you acting white?” or ” why the hell she wore that, she’s ugly”.

SOOO…

This is for the women who are tired of living according to the world’s standards & the thought of pleasing everyone, “you will never be able to satisfy everyone, so you might as well do what makes you smile” and most of all…

DO YOU BOO! 

Outfit Details

Sweater: Zara

Plaid Button Down: Forever21

Boots: Boohoo

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Bag: Thrifted